The greatest gift of all: tips for coping through the holiday season

by Anna Webber

The holiday season is often described as “the most wonderful time of the year,” but it can bring a complicated mix of emotions for many people. Along with joy and celebration some can experience stress, pressure, and loneliness. Between family gatherings, financial demands, travel, and high expectations we may place on ourselves, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed.

The good news is, you can find healthy ways to cope and rediscover balance during this busy time of the year.

Coping and finding balance

A helpful first step is simply acknowledging what you are experiencing. The holidays can stir up grief, stress, or disappointment, just as much as excitement. Giving yourself permission to feel what you feel, without judgment, can make it easier to move forward in a healthy way.

From there, it helps to set realistic expectations. It’s tempting to aim for a picture-perfect holiday, but that can  lead to burnout. Simplifying traditions and choosing those that truly matter to you can create more joy and less pressure. It is also important to give yourself permission to say “no.” Your holidays do not have to look like someone else’s, or even like your own from previous years, in order for them to be meaningful.

Taking care of yourself is also key in coping well. Self-care often takes a back seat during the holidays, but it is most needed during stressful times. Regular sleep, balanced meals, and physical activity help support mood and energy. Even taking small breaks, such as stepping outside for a walk, practicing deep breathing, or listening to music, can provide a reset.

Pairing all of the above with gratitude and mindfulness can shift perspective. Whether it’s noticing a small act of kindness, enjoying a seasonal tradition, or simply pausing to cherish the moment, these practices can help calm things during an otherwise stressful time. Remember: Caring for yourself isn’t selfish; it allows you to show up with more energy and patience for others.

The pros and cons of holiday gatherings

Holiday gatherings can also be stressful. Family dynamics and other relationships can be challenging, which is why setting healthy boundaries around your time, energy, and resources is so important. If a gathering feels overwhelming, you might shorten your visit or plan smaller get-togethers that feel more manageable. Being clear and kind in your communication can prevent unnecessary tension and resentment.

On the other hand, connection can be a powerful antidote to holiday stress. If you are experiencing loneliness or grief, those feelings can be eased by reaching out to a friend, attending a community event, or volunteering your time. Surrounding yourself with people who make you feel supported, whether through family, friends, or community, can bring a sense of comfort and belonging that carries you through the season.

Ultimately, the holidays do not have to be perfect to be meaningful. By acknowledging your feelings, setting healthy expectations, caring for yourself, and focusing on connection over perfection, you can navigate this season with greater ease.

Even small choices toward balance can help you feel more grounded and present this holiday season, which may just be the greatest gift of all!

This column is sponsored by the Stockbridge Area Wellness Coalition. Anna Webber, LMSW, is a behavioral health navigator and SRSLY Manchester program coordinator for Chelsea Hospital.