“Dear Gabbie” is written with the simple hope of bringing a few smiles to your day and is not meant to replace the advice of professionals…especially your mom!

Dear Gabbie:

It drives me crazy when people chew with their mouths open. Am I being too picky? Should I tell my friend to stop doing this?

Signed,

Mouth Closed in The Mitten

Dear Mouth Closed,

You are right to be put off by someone who chews with their mouth open, especially if it is a constant habit.

Unfortunately, not all of us were raised with the same manners growing up. Speaking of which, Gabbie and siblings were raised on a game called “Manners” at the dinner table. On occasion, at dinner, Mom would say, “Let’s play Manners” and for the next 10 minutes or so, we’d each keep an eagle eye out for anyone putting their elbows on the table, chewing with their mouths open, whatever. There was no prize for finding the most infractions, but you can bet it drilled some good manners into all at the table.  

For those who were raised playing Scrabble or Monopoly instead of “Manners,” they may never have learned that chewing with your mouth open is considered a bad habit and in most circles downright rude. If your friend is a good friend, I would suggest you find a time—in private—to mention this in the nicest way possible.

It’s always gentlest to address a peeve by putting the problem on yourself. Maybe say, “I know I’m being picky, but I have a thing about seeing people’s food when they chew. Would you mind chewing with your mouth closed.”

Do be prepared for the possibility of hurting the person’s feelings, but know that, in the long run, you really are doing them a favor.

In the meantime, remember to keep those elbows off the table!

Gabbie